Hi ladies, I am new here and I love the thought that there is a group like this who empowers women.
Anyhow, I live in the Philippines I am 31 yrs old, a working mother, and have SLE. My husband is dutch and he used to have a very good job but now, he doesn’t have any and doesn’t have a job ever since 2017 up until now.
In that same year (2017), I found out he was cheating on me while he was in another country for 7 months for work. It had to come to a point where my son and I left him and got a protection order so he can’t come near us because he laid a hand on me because I continue to catch him cheating on me even if he says he is not anymore.
So I got depressed and stressed and gave me major SLE flares that my body can’t bear. I eventually got back with him because he said he would want to make things right and doesn’t want our family broken. I don’t know if this was the wisest idea at that time but I had to think about my son because I don’t want him to grow up in a broken family. So we patched things up and until then, we are okay. I could say that our marriage is really NOT THE SAME anymore. There’s a big gap now that needs to be addressed but he isn’t doing anything about it. I am at the point where I dont care anymore because I dont want any added stress anymore.
Anyway fast forward to today, my husband doesn’t have any work and I don’t know what his plans for the future are, he is as puzzled as me as to why he can’t get work. It is very disappointing because we have a son to raise and he is still 46 yrs old. There’s still so much he can do, but he can’t get any job at all.
I took the responsibility of being the provider for our family despite of my chronic condition (SLE). We are in so much debt, and me having a job wont suffice, but its some kind of HOPE for me. At least we have something so we can survive. I am just taking life one day at a time.
I am happy to have found this page, I love reading your amazing stories. And I hope we support and empower each other and help each other get through the day.
Thank you for accepting me in this wonderfulg group. Jane