First time posting here. I’m always seeing good vibes and nice words being said to one another. So... I’m dating this guy. We’ve been together 11 years. So my late 20’s and all of my 30’s. I’ve caught him with my own eyes cheating on me a few times. I’ve also answered his phone while he’s passed out drunk (raging alcoholic) and spoken to people that he’s met online and other people he’s never met in person but he tells them he loves them and that he and I are not together. I ask him about these things and he basically tells me to get over it that he’s done nothing wrong and deflects anger and accusations of cheating towards me. I have never cheated on him. I have never told anyone else that I’ve loved them or gone on a date or even chatted on the phone.
But somehow I’m the bitch, cunt, fat ass, horrible person because I’m trying to make him accountable for what he’s done. He has a passcode on his phone he won’t give me and says that I have no business needing it. I try to break up with him and he gives me the I will change , I’ll stop drinking, I’ll stop hitting you. I let him back each and every time. He won’t leave my house until he’s reassured that we are good. I need legit help to make him leave and understand that I don’t want to be with him. Thank you!